Girl Talk Tuesday: How I Fall Asleep Fast
I think the one thing most every human on earth can agree on is that we all love our sleep. We all need it, we all want it. But we all don’t get the same amount or quality.
After having MacKenlee, I had to figure out how to operate on broken sleep. The lack of sleep made me a train wreck, both mentally and emotionally. Once she started sleeping through the night, the fog started to lift for me. I’ve been a night owl for as long as I can remember. I actually come by that naturally, my Mawmaw was one too. Thing is… A baby changes everything. I had to shift my normal schedule because our days started at 7am. That meant I needed to find ways to wind down and fall asleep earlier. Here are a few of my nightly rituals that help me go to sleep each night:
- Take a hot bath. I don’t take one every night, but the nights I need to wind down, I find baths to be especially helpful. I always add epsom salt or magnesium flakes to help relax my body.
- Wear pajamas. Actually wear real PJs. I mean having soft, luxurious PJs that are reserved for bedtime. That means no yoga pants and no sweats. I value my sleep so I want to have a nice pair of pajamas that I look forward to wearing. It’s like a super comfortable reward at the end of my day. Something to look forward to putting on my tired body.
- Wear blue light glasses before bed. Wearing my glasses while watching tv and looking at screens helps promote better sleep. Here’s my favorite pair of (non-prescription) glasses and a budget-friendly version here.
- Wear a sleep mask. I can’t sleep if the room isn’t dark. I started wearing sleep masks years ago and they make such a difference. This mask is my favorite when I don’t have lash extensions. This mask is best for lash extensions or protecting your natural lashes from curling/kinking up from pressing against the mask.
- Use essential oils. We use oils at bedtime in various ways. I’ll mix oils into epsom salt for a more aromatic bath experience. We diffuse different blends at bedtime. We also apply oils topically. Which oils we use depends on what we’re looking to achieve. I mix lavender, cedarwood and orange most evenings for diffusing. I apply frankincense and lavender, along with other oils every night topically. Learn more about oils in this blog post.
6 Things I’ve Learned From 6 Years Of Blogging
Last Monday we celebrated the six year anniversary of Hello Gorgeous. SIX years. Seeing what Hello Gorgeous has become since my first blog post, just about blows my mind. I started this blog as a hobby. A fun way to share my favorite things. I launched my blog before Instagram was even really a thing for most people. Pinterest, on the other hand, was all the rage. Read about my blogging story in this post.
My Gorgeous Girls have been with me through my wedding, moving (more than once!), losing my Mawmaw, pregnancy, becoming a mama and so much more. You feel like my friends. I now know many of you by name and feel like this has become so much more than a blog or YouTube channel… It has become a community. A family, really. I’m so thankful for you. That you have made the decision to follow along with me. You have made it possible for me to live out my dreams. I was told I would never be able to make beauty a career, but ladies, I proved them all wrong. Not only have I been able to turn my passion into a business, but I have been able to connect with amazing women all over the world. Each day that I get to wake up and do what I love, yet another day, is a true blessing. Thank you for being a part of my dream. Thank you for helping make my dream a reality.
Okay, now that I’ve gotten all teary-eyed and sappy, I want to share six things I have personally learned along my blogging journey.
- Working with your spouse isn’t easy. Matt shoots (most of) my photos and videos. We host Hello Baby Podcast together. Heck, he even came up with the name Hello Gorgeous! We do everything together. Fortunately, we enjoy with each other more than anyone else on this planet, but that doesn’t mean we don’t butt heads at times. With marriage comes a level of comfort you don’t have with anyone else, which means you feels comfortable unleashing on them when you get frustrated. We’ve learned to be more respectful of each other in the past 6 years, but there are still times when we want to kill each other. That’s marriage!
- Switching to WordPress was the best decision. I blogged on Blogger for YEARS. I don’t know why I was so reluctant to make the switch to WP. Once I finally did switch, I was kicking myself for waiting so long. I love the format and how easy it is to navigate.
- Stay true to yourself. When I started blogging, I didn’t know any bloggers. I just talked about what I loved and loved every second of it. Then blogging became a thing. Now everyone and their brother is a blogger. It’s so easy to see someone else (appear to be) killing it and think that you need to do/look like/write/act like they are… DON’T! There is only one you. Share what makes you, you. When you try to be like someone else, it shows. Just do you, boo boo.
- Stop comparing. I’m still working on this one myself. We women play the comparison game in all areas of life and it does nothing but leave us feeling terrible about ourselves in most cases.
- Give yourself grace. I’m a creative thinker. I dream big and never have the time to follow through with a lot of my ideas. I’m constantly disappointed in myself for my bad stewardship of time. I feel like I rarely accomplish what I set out to do. I have to remind myself often that there’s only one of me and I can only do so much.
- Apply the KonMari method. If it doesn’t bring you joy move on. If what once brought you joy has since lost its shine, then it’s time to move on. Life is too short to be constantly sad, depressed or frustrated.
Again, thank you for being a part of my oh-so-special GGs family. I hope you’ll stick around for many years to come. I’m so grateful for your love and support. Please let me know in the comments below how long you’ve been with me on this journey.
Girl Talk Tuesday: I’ve Been Mom Shamed
Becoming a mama has been a joy. A real life, completely true, heart-swelling J-O-Y. There are some things you just can’t understand until it happens to you, and for me, that was motherhood. I knew I’d love it. I knew I’d love this baby God gave me, but I didn’t know how much. Everything I thought I knew went flying out the window the second that baby girl was placed in my arms.
Matt and I have shared our journey to parenthood from day one on our podcast, Hello Bump (now Hello Baby). We would be naive to believe that just because we’re opening our hearts, lives and experiences to the world, that we would be received with open arms from every person who listened. And y’all, I am naive. I always think the best, believe the best and expect the best when it comes to the way others will perceive me. Nothing shatters me more than thinking someone doesn’t like me. Unfortunately, that’s just not real life. There are haters in this world. It doesn’t matter if you do every single thing in life right, there will always be someone who thinks you’re doing it all wrong.
This week on Hello Baby, Matt and I had an in-depth conversation about mom shaming… What it is? What does it look like? Have I been on the receiving end of it? Because this topic is so personal to me, I wanted to dive in and chat about it in my very first Girl Talk Tuesday post of 2019.
Mom shaming is such a hot topic because it happens to us all. You don’t have to have a Facebook profile to be shamed. Mom shaming could be:
- Family member making repeat comments about how you should be breastfeeding, not formula-feeding. NEWSFLASH: It’s no one’s business but your business how you choose to feed your child.
- A stranger giving you nasty looks for breastfeeding. NEWSFLASH: She wasn’t invited to dine with your infant. There’s no reason to feel ashamed for feeding your child in public.
- A comment online attacking the way you look after having a baby. NEWSFLASH: Your body just literally delivered a miracle. Give yourself grace.
- Another mother making it very known that her child will not have screen time until he or she is two years old, while looking at your child watching something on your phone. NEWSFLASH: What one family chooses to do, shouldn’t influence what your family chooses to do. You get to make your own decisions for your own family.
- Someone posts an article shaming every mother who has given their child a flu shot this year. NEWSFLASH: It is between you and your pediatrician what you choose to vaccinate your child with. Education is one thing, shaming is an entirely different beast.
For me, I’ve been shamed many times in only my one year of motherhood. I’ve mostly been attacked on Instagram for choices that I’ve made with MacKenlee in feeding her my breastmilk in a bottle instead of nursing her every feeding. Oh, and I can’t forget the nasty DM’s I’ve received because we chose to vaccinate her. Or how about the time I took her out in public as a newborn and was slammed for that.
But my most memorable moment was before she was even born. We’ve talked about this on the podcast, so it’s not a new story. When I was in my second trimester, Matt and I went out to lunch. I was wearing 2-3″ heels and walked to the bathroom. Keep in mind, this was a single bathroom, not one with multiple stalls. A middle-aged woman followed me back to the bathroom, opened the door as I was closing it and started lecturing me on wearing heels while pregnant. She went so far as to grab my arm and told me that I could kill my baby. I was so shocked that it was happening, that I didn’t know how to respond. I walked back to our table still in shock and Matt was like,”What happened in there?!” I can laugh about it now, but at the time, I was upset that a stranger got so aggressive with me.
The list goes on and on and ON. There are so many examples, so many hurts, and guess what? They’re all 100% avoidable and unnecessary. That’s the thing about human nature though, when we think we know something, we think we need to make it known. Sometimes it comes from a purely innocent place, just wanting to help another mama out. Other times, it comes from a place of anger, envy or just plain old meanness. Regardless of where it comes from, it’s all mom shaming and it has got to stop.
The thing that perplexes me most about this phenomenon is that most of the time (I didn’t say all of the time) it is other women who are doing the shaming. That’s what leaves me sitting here, scratching my head. Why would one mother want to tear another mother down? I think we all have a little bit of those high school mean girl days still left in us.
Like I said in this week’s episode, I can honestly say that I’ve never once in my life left a negative comment of any type on someone’s social media account. But do you know what I am guilty of? Judging. 100% guilty. I have watched other women with their children and silently judged what they did, how they reacted or things they said. I did this while not having a clue about what was going on in their lives. I simply witnessed a tiny moment in one of their (many) days being a mother and passed judgment in my heart. We’re all guilty of this. Or how about one of our girlfriends make a snide remark about what she saw another mom do? We have a choice to shut it down or engage… So much of the time, we choose to engage.
But, what if we flipped the script? I know, I know, we can’t change what someone else does or even influence what they say. What we can do is be the change ourselves. How about in 2019, we take the stance that the buck stops here. We choose to not engage in the mom bashing thoughts, talk, comments, the whole she-bang. We instead choose to lift up other mamas. Instead of looking to criticize, we look for something to praise about her parenting choices, her child, the way she looks, etc. Think of it as a pay it forward of sorts. Let’s make 2019 the year of mom praising instead of mom shaming.
Leave a comment below to share your own personal mom shaming story.
First Photo: I’m wearing Cosabella Nursing PJ Set | Second Photo: I’m wearing Bae the Label dress. Kenny is wearing Gap dress and Freshly Picked moccasins. | Third Photo: I’m wearing J Brand jeans. Kenny is wearing outfit from Janie and Jack. | Fourth Photo: I’m wearing Storets cardigan and Kenny is wearing Old Navy tutu. | Fifth Photo: I’m wearing Lulu’s jumpsuit. Kenny is wearing Little Me dress. |