GTT: Why Girlfriends are so Important

GTT: Why Girlfriends are so Important

gtt: why girlfriends are important

This past weekend, I launched a private Facebook group for my Gorgeous Girls.  I decided to start this group after seeing how much my girls loved my Facebook book club.  The book club became a place for women from all over the world to share their common love for reading.  I loved sharing the reading experience with my book club girls so much.  We had weekly chats that I looked forward to and each month we nominate books for the following month and vote on the winner.

I’m often discouraged by the negativity online.  I always try to create a space where women can come and feel good about what they’re reading, watching or seeing.  Where they can hopefully leave feeling happier.  After I launched the Gorgeous Girls Community page this weekend, I was blown away by the positive feedback from the girls and how quickly an idea I had turned into a full-fledged community of women.  I spent the weekend reading the girl’s introductions, learning about who my Gorgeous Girls really are, where they come from and even had more than a few tears in my eyes as I read what these brave girls have overcame in their lives.

The common theme that I kept seeing?  A need for girlfriends.  A desire to have a positive place online where they could connect with other women.  Where they could open their hearts and share.  That’s where today’s Girl Talk Tuesday topic came from.  Because I believe that one of the most important relationships in a woman’s life, regardless of her age, is the relationship between her and her girlfriends.  I’d love if I could share a few reasons why I think so…

Why Girlfriends are so Important

Husbands aren’t women.  They don’t think like us, talk like us or feel things the way we do.  It can be frustrating to feel like you can’t ever get on the same page as your man, but I don’t really believe that most men are wired that way.  It’s a beautiful thing that they don’t do these things when you think of it.  They fulfill so many need in our lives, and we do the same for them, but most hubbies don’t want to be shopping buddies, or read the same romantic novel or gab over a cup of coffee…  And that’s ok.  Those are activities that you can share with your girlfriends and your man can have that time to do whatever it is that he likes to do, that you really don’t want to do.

Sometimes, no one gets what you’re feeling.  Not your family, not the man in your life, but your best friend, she gets it.  Because she gets you.  She understands you, and that’s all that matters.

You need a sounding board.  The best part of having girlfriends is that you get to have someone to listen to you when you just need to vent, and you get to do the same for her.

Someone to hold you accountable.  My best friend, Megan, and I call each other our accountability partners.  We coined this term because we are the first ones to call each other out when our behavior isn’t what it should be in a certain situation.

Because you need to know someone has your back.  If you’re married, yes that’s what your husband is for.  But it’s also a really great feeling to know that you have a friend in your corner that will go through thick and thin with you, right by your side.

Leave a comment below and tell me about your best girlfriend.  And if you don’t currently have one, consider joining our community and connecting with some really awesome ladies who will welcome you with open arms into our little corner of the (internet) world.

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  • Hi Angela!

    My best girlfriend is currently attending a different college a tad further from our hometown. We miss each other a lot, since we both have incredibly busy and stressful schedules this semester. What makes her so special is that we always find time (at least once a week or every two weeks) to sit down, Facetime, and update each other on everything that has happened. We keep each other’s spirits up, encourage one another, and try our hardest to be there for one another. That’s what makes her friendship to me so amazing!

    • Angela Lanter

      I love that you find time to maintain your friendship even in such a busy season of life!

  • I currently have three best girlfriends. One I’ve known since fifth grade, the other two I’ve only known for a few years, but I can’t even begin to imagine (nor do I want to) what my life would be like without them. They’re the strongest, most amazing and loving women, and they saved me when I lost my mom. She left a pretty massive hole in my heart, but they’ve got it mostly filled back up now. We’re all scattered all over Georgia and Alabama, and most of us have never met in person, but I’m in the process of introducing everyone through group chats. We even have our own little club sort of. The IAHFY Sisterhood. IAHFY stands for I Am Here For You, and boy are we. I’ve never had friends as open and supportive as these three, and I woukdn’t trade them for anything. Not even if it meant I could have my mom back. They’re my home.

    • Angela Lanter

      I love this!! Erin, you girls need to join my Facebook private group. It’s a larger form of your group and I think you’ll love it. 🙂

  • Amanda Wilson

    Your so right, my best girlfriend is Denise Edwards. We have been friends for 10 plus years. We have had sleepovers when we were both single and dating. I can tell her anything and know she will always have my best interests at heart. We had a falling out before my daughter was born, over her man and mine at the time. But after a year or two we picked right back up where we left of. With apologies in tow. We both realized no man can come between our friendship. I have her back and she has mine. She moved away during our “non speaking time.” She moved back to California while I remained here in Texas, but it has not stopped or even halted our friendship. When it comes down to it besides our husband’s you need one person who can both hold you accountable and just listen or give feedback. She is that person for me and I don’t ever think that will change!

    Oh and I remember those sleepovers fondly watching “Gone with the wind”. Talking gossip or just about men and it’s definitely a highlight of my life.

    • Angela Lanter

      So happy to hear that you two mended things! A best friend is so important!

  • Elizabeth

    Thank you so much ! With the facebook page, book club, and your girl talk Tuesday, it makes it easier to interact other people you can relate to.

    • Angela Lanter

      I’m so glad you’re making new connections, Elizabeth! 🙂

  • Alessandra Nagy

    I’m part of the Facebook group and I’ve also been blown away by how positive the group is! We see so much negativity and judginess on social media, so it’s nice to have a safe place we can go to to ask basically anything! I love the group already and I’m so honored to be part of it. Kudos to you, Angela, for thinking of this and for creating such a great group of women. It’s really a testament to the brand you’ve spent so much time building over the past few years. Unlike many of the women, I did not find you through Matt. I’ve been a fan of Jenn Sterling, a writer, for years, and actually found one of your YouTube videos through her! I’ve been watching your videos since basically the beginning and I love to see the progress you’ve made and the brand you’ve curated. You should be so proud that you’ve stuck to your morals and your own self rather than conforming to be like everyone else. Well done!!

    • Angela Lanter

      Yay! I love hearing that, Alessandra! You sorta found me through Matt, since that’s how I know Jenn, lol! Isn’t she awesome?!

  • Angela, I love this post so much!!! I 100% agree that you need to have either one really close girlfriend or a group of girlfriends to stay sane in lif! I have had a few friends in my life distance themselves when they got a significant other I just couldn’t understand how you could push away your friends because you need other people in your life rather than just a significant other. One of my best gal pals is like a twin to me (at least what I imagine having a twin would be like) she just gets me down to my soul and can talk with me about anything and support me through everything! We are also currently in similar stages of life, both single, both trying to deicide whether we like what the dating world is like today, and both trying to walk through life with God, it’s just so amazing to have someone like that in your life! Thanks for this post I really enjoyed it!

    • Angela Lanter

      Thanks, Madison! I’m so happy to hear that you’ve found a kindred spirit in your best friend!!

  • Risa Bierman

    I love meeting new people and seeing what shakes out. Sometimes you find the best of girlfriends when you’re least expecting it. You look back and know you were led to them for a reason. They’ve become dear to your heart and you’re so grateful for having met them. It’s not everyday you have enough of an encounter with someone for something to blossom, but I feel the Gorgeous Girls Community you’ve created facilitates an opportunity for that. I’m thoroughly enjoying myself and see that other women are too! A big success already! Thank you, Angela! 🙂

    • Angela Lanter

      Love your comment so much, Risa! My heart’s desire was to help my GGs find new friendships through my FB group and it’s feeling like that’s what’s happening. 🙂

  • I never really got a bestfriends in my life. I was bullied at school and then I just didn’t want to get that close to someone, probably because I was scared.
    When I got into college, I’ve met amazing person. Then I got sick, and the girls that I thought were my best friends were not here for me. That’s when I understand how much we needed friends to have our back, to laught with us and just to share life with us.
    Luckly, I now have some of those. Most of them I have met on the internet, some of them in college. And I feel like i’m the luckiest person in the world to have those girls in my life. They just get me in a way no one else can. Not even my mom, and she has always been my favorite person in the world.

    I met most of my friends in facebook / twitter group just like the one you created. I look foward to meet the girls in this community and make some more amazing friends ! 🙂

    • Angela Lanter

      Yay! I’m so happy to hear that you’ve surrounded yourself with a great group of girlfriends who know your heart! 🙂

  • Angela kalchik

    Hi angela!!! So yesterday I texted my best friend and vented on how I was feeling and just that I miss my girls (being newly wed)!!! It’s different with a husband then with your best girlfriend!! Exactly the blog I needed to read! Amen :)))

    • Angela Lanter

      Yay! I’m so happy this came at the perfect time for you. 🙂

  • Sara Cole

    I think I’m equally excited about the group you created this weekend!! I loved reading about all the wonderful women around the world and experiencing a little bit of their world. My best friend and I have been “best bitches” (yes, there is a story behind our title) since 2008, when we met before we deployed together! She is the first person I tell everything and my soul sister in life. I have 2 other girlfriends, who are best friends too. I wouldn’t know how to get through life without either of them either. I genuinely love my relationship with my husband, but there are just certain moments…only a best friend can get you through.

    • Angela Lanter

      Yay! I love hearing that you’re excited for the group! I agree, a best girlfriend is SO important through every season in life!

  • Brittany Blackburn

    My best girlfriend is my church discipleship leader Michal. I’ve been meeting with her *almost* weekly for the past three years. She knows everything about me… from my best to my worst. She’s seen me blossom from a scared, insecure girl into a confident woman who chases Jesus hard! I’m so blessed God chose to cross our paths!

    • Angela Lanter

      That’s so awesome to have that close relationship with someone you share the same beliefs with. 🙂

  • I didn’t find my girlfriends until later in life (Just hit 30) but it has been the most beautiful and enriching experience. We are a group of six and we call ourselves the GNO girls. Stands for Girls Night Out. But it has become so much more than that. We came together through different paths at my sister’s bachelorette last year and we just sort of stuck 🙂 Since then we have celebrated six birthdays, 3 weddings, a business venture, depression days, and all the joys and sorrows of life over the past year. These are my life long friends and I cannot imagine going through any more milestones without them. Friendships are beautiful and yes I 100% agree that every woman needs girlfriends.

    • Angela Lanter

      So awesome! Love that you have a bigger group of friends, you’re so blessed!

  • I’ve had the same best friend since Kindergarten. She is the most genuine person I’ve ever met and I’ve always called myself blessed to have a lifetime friend like her. She has never let me down and I can count on her for anything and everything. We’ve drifted some since starting our families and settling down, but we never go long without speaking to each other. We recently started to hang out more often and I realized how much I’ve missed her and need her presence in my life more. She’s one of the best people I’ve ever met and makes me want to be better as well. Friends should lift you up and I can honestly say she’s lifted me up since kindergarten with her kind heart and ways. I’m not sure I could have gotten through my high school years without her. Her family has always treated me like their own (they even gave me a key to their house) ? I just pray my girls find a forever friend while they’re young like I did! (I have a 4 & 5 year old) Husbands just don’t get it sometimes and that’s ok.

    • Angela Lanter

      Love that you two have been together since Kindergarten!! Such an awesome friendship!

  • Veronica

    Hey Angela! Thank you so much for posting this. Reading it brought me to tears. Tears because I so badly wish I had a best friend like this. But reading made me think of the one person that I have known the longest and the one person I know I can talk to about ALMOST anything. It has been about 9 years since we last saw each other and we keep in contact with each other and text message here and there for a couple days at a time but reading this post brought me to tears because it made me think of her. She was my first best friend when me and my husband started dating, she lives on the east coast and I am currently living in the Midwest, neither one of us really have the funds to travel to see each other but we try our best to stay in contact with each other as mush as possible. But I miss her so much. I just wanted to say thank you for creating the GG groups. It’s truly heartwarming. Thank you so much. You have inspired me in so many ways.

    • Angela Lanter

      Aww, I love hearing about your friendship, Veronica! I hope you get to see your bestie soon!

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