Today I turn 32. Thirty-stinkin-two years old.
The way I see it, I have two ways to handle my birthday: curl up in a ball on the couch and drown my “I’m getting older sorrows” in a pint of Ben & Jerry’s OR I can choose to be positive and reflect on the life lessons I’ve learned. If you know me even a little bit, you know I picked the second option. I LOVE my birthday. I always have. Who wouldn’t love one day a year that is your day? It’s the day other people celebrate your life with gifts and cake. Two of the best things in life, if you ask me. I don’t just love my birthday, I love to celebrate and make other’s birthdays special too.
Birthdays are a big deal in my family. Love of birthdays definitely comes natural to me. Mawmaw LOVED her birthday. She wanted everyone to know that she was the birthday girl.
I decided to merge Girl Talk Tuesday with my Birthday to create a special Tuesday meets Wednesday post this week.
32 Life Lessons:
- 30 wasn’t as scary as everyone makes you think it is. In fact, I still feel like I’m in my 20’s. Age really ain’t nothing but a number.
- Say what you mean, but don’t say it mean. You can deliver bad news or criticism in love without being harsh. It’s not what you say as much as it is how you say it.
- Never stop learning. Just because you finished high school/college/whatever, doesn’t mean that the learning stops there. The most successful people are those who are the first to admit they don’t know everything because they are always willing to learn.
- Love hard. With your whole heart and without conditions.
- Nothing takes the place of real conversation. In this day and age of technology, it’s so easy to go days at a time with only having conversations via email and text. The problem is that you can’t hear the emotional inflections or read body language. I get that we’re not all blessed to have every conversation in person. But nothing replaces making a real connection with someone and that just simply can’t be done over text.
- Save more than you spend. Another one that can’t always be done, but I’m a firm believer in putting away money for a nest egg, rainy day, retirement, whatever. My mom always taught me you don’t spend what you don’t have. A new handbag feels great, trust me I know… But being financially stable and responsible feels a whole heck of a lot better than any accessory you’ve been eyeing.
- Treat Yo Self. Not to totally contradict myself in #4, but sometimes you really do need to splurge on yourself. Maybe that’s a new pair of heels, a piece of cake, a mani or maybe even a bubble bath. Just know that it is okay to treat yourself from time to time, especially as a reward.
- Put down my phone. My biggest distraction in life lives in the form of an iPhone. My iPhone contains everything that keeps me from being productive, all in one device. It also keeps me from connecting with my husband and even can cause me from just experiencing life.
- Prefer your spouse. You won’t like your spouse every minute of every day. But you do have to love them every minute of every day. A good marriage is a marriage built on love. A great marriage is also built on love as well as two people who prefer each other over anyone else on earth. You have to make a choice every morning to prefer your husband over anyone else.
- Less tv, more books. My Pawpaw always called the television, the “Idiot Box.” Kinda ironic seeing on how I grew up to marry an actor, isn’t it?! There is something to be said about wasting tons of time on trash tv (you know what I’m talking about!) Of course there’s nothing wrong with tv! But being married to an actor has caused me to take a look at what I’m consuming as a viewer, that the time I choose to sit in front of the tv be something that I really enjoy, I learn from… Not mindless tv. I feel so much more fulfilled when I use my brain to read a book than I do when I watch yet another episode of Real Housewives, and I love me some Real Housewives of OC.
- You need a good girlfriend. Your husband can be your best friend, but he’ll never be your best girlfriend. Chances are he doesn’t care about what color nail polish you wear or what dress you saw at the mall. We girls were created to be emotional and relational, which are beautiful things. We just have to learn which conversation topics should be saved for our girlfriends in order to spare our poor hubbies.
- Podcasts and audiobooks are an amazing thing. I was super late to the game on these two amazing inventions. Now, there’s no looking back. I almost always have an audiobook or a podcast going at all times of the day. I love taking in information while doing work or driving.
- It’s okay to not be the best. This one is a daily inner struggle for me. When I do something, I want to be the best at it, regardless of what it is. Call it a competitive nature, if you will. When I see someone else doing what I’m doing better… Then I immediately feel like a failure. I’m learning to stop measuring my results according to what others achieve.
- Success isn’t measured by your bank account. We grow up believing that you need to have the best to be the best. Better grades mean a better job which means more money. Success in your career is a great thing, don’t get me wrong. It’s success at home, with your family and your friendships, that make for a truly happy life.
- Cooking can be fun. I have several girlfriends who don’t enjoy cooking. I grew up in a family of really good cooks. Every family gathering you could count on some good food, it was a given. When I moved out to LA, my entire family was back East, so I had to either figure out this cooking thing on my own or eat every meal out. I looked at cooking as a fun hobby and I love being able to create interesting and fun new meals. I don’t really ever dread having to go home and cook dinner. I like being able to try new things. Sometimes I get it right and others, not so much. That’s okay though. Matt loves that I love to be in the kitchen whipping up new recipes.
- Stay hydrated. I get pretty intense about drinking water. I count my intake every day, and I stick by it. I’m a firm believer that your skin and your body directly benefit by staying hydrated.
- Dogs make life better. Read this post if you want to see all of my reasons why.
- You’ll never regret chasing your dreams. But you will regret it if you don’t chase them.
- Make sleep a priority. The saying, “You can sleep when you’re dead” is for the birds.
- Be the first to apologize. Even if you don’t want to or don’t feel like you’re in the wrong. Find what you did incorrectly, and apologize for that.
- Always ask for forgiveness. Saying you’re sorry isn’t enough. It’s not a true apology with asking the one you wronged for forgiveness.
- Have dessert. Maybe not after every single meal… But life is short, order the dessert.
- Marriage isn’t 50/50. Marriage is 100/100. You have to try your best every single day to give 100%, 50% won’t cut it.
- Be careful who you give your time to. Be choosy who you allow into your heart.
- Be quick to listen and slow to speak. The best conversationalists are really just the best listeners. Work on listening to what is being said instead of formulating your response.
- Fresh flowers and a scented candle make for a cozy home. Fresh flowers add color and life; candles add warmth, glow and scent to a room. Both help to create ambiance in the home.
- When you look bad, you’ll feel bad. Taking care of your body and appearance lift your spirits and your self esteem.
- Take your vitamins. I can tell a difference in the way I feel on the days I take my vitamins. In this age of processed food, it’s impossible to get all of the nutrients our bodies need in our diet alone.
- Cherish your grandparents. I grew up believing that my Mawmaw was invincible. She was the strong matriarch in our family. It was almost as though I couldn’t comprehend the thought of her not being here one day. I’m so glad I have the many memories I do with her.
- Don’t settle for less. Don’t settle for the wrong relationship, the wrong job or even a wrong friendship. God’s way is always better than what we could have ever planned for ourselves.
- Being a giver is so much more rewarding than receiving. Serving often benefits you way more than the person you are serving.
- Coffee is essential for life to even begin each morning.
Please leave a comment below with some of your most valuable life lessons, whether practical or heartwarming. I love so much reading each one of your comments. I’m thankful for the time you take to join me on this journey each week!
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Happy Happy Birthday! I hope it is an amazing day! I stumbled across your blog a few weeks ago, and I love reading. Do you mind me asking what vitamins you take???
Thank you Lindsay! Are you signed up for my newsletter? I offer a free PDF with my list of daily vitamins once you sign up for it! ?
Love this, such great reminders! I would love to know what some of your favorite podcasts are, I’m always looking for new ones ?
Happy Birthday Angela!, I hope you have a super duper fabulous day. My favourite saying of the moment is ” when nothing is certain, anything is possible”. you don’t always need a plan, just follow your heart and instinct. Be grateful and always have a bottle of Prosecco chilling in the fridge :-).
Happy Birthday Angela 🙂 You’re my favorite blogger and I always look forward to reading all your blog posts. You’re so talented and I believe God has given you a great gift. Thank you for those great reminders. Half of what you listed, I don’t even do or even think about doing. I truly believe that “anything is possible if you have faith”. That is one of the biggest lessons I’ve have learned in these past couple of years. That is something that I am constantly reminding myself of. Once again, HAPPY BIRTHDAY ANGELA! <3
I forgot to put my name in the section. My name is Jennifer! Lol
Happy Birthday, Angela!! I am with you on being big on birthdays! I used to count down the days til the next bday even after my bday happened. I also love to spoil my friends and family with thought gifts and handmade cards for their bdays. I still try to mail cards to my friends who have moved away. I wish you a joyous and blessed birthday! Such great lessons. You deserve the best!
Happy Birthday….again! (I snapped ya!) lol I love this post! These are terrific life lessons. Some I have learned along the way (being 33) and some I still need to work on! Communication was a big one for me because I have a tendency to keep my feelings bottled up so learning to express how I feel about something if it made me upset or mad was very difficult but little by little I have come a long way. Have a wonderful day!!!!!!!
Happy Birthday!!!! I agree 30 isn’t as bad as it seems. I turned 30 this year and thought it would be awful but it’s just another number. One things I always remember is the quote about say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. Obviously I have to think before I speak and not say hurtful things but I think of this more like not being afraid of what people think of me because it honestly doesn’t matter. I value the opinions of my husband and close friends and family but worrying constantly about what the world thinks about you will only drag you down. This is a value I want to instill in my daughter because I grew up too worried about what people thought about everything I did or said and I hope she won’t struggle as much with that.
Great life lessons! Thank you for sharing and I hope you have a wonderful birthday!
Happy Birthday!I do love this post because I love reading inspirational sayings,quotes and life lessons. My favorites are” Be your own kind of beautiful” and “Treat others the way you would want to be treated.” I liked the part about your grandmother because mine was also the matriarch of the family I thought she was invincible because I used to say all the time she will never die she will outlive us all and she lived to 91.
Happy Birthday beautiful, hope your day is fantastic!!
My most valued life lessons are- don’t spend what you don’t have.
Know God’s all encompassing love, your soul will feel fulfillment and your life will find purpose in knowing you’re valued and loved simply because God loves you and cares for you.
Have self compassion! Talk to yourself as you would your oldest and dearest friend. Be kind to your own heart.
Happy Birthday! Today is actually my birthday as well – 39! Love reading your blog 🙂 Lesson 30: Don’t settle for less. Don’t settle for the wrong relationship, the wrong job or even a wrong friendship. This on really resonates with me. I feel like when you are in the right job, or right relationship, etc. you know because you stop looking for or finding things wrong. It just works and is the right fit. Happy birthday again! Great day to be born 🙂
Happy Birthday! I pray your year is full of infinite joy, endless adventure, laughter and peace. The biggest thing I keep learning day after day is to always be faithful and to always have grace. To love ferociously and to listen to your intuition! To try something new every day, to embrace change and challenge. To never give up. My list could go on but I’ll save it for another day!
I’m obsessed with your sweater and boot combination! It’s perfect to stay cozy for the holidays!
Happy Birthday!!!! 🙂
I think my two most valuable lessons are:
1. Never go to bed angry. I know it has been said thousands of times before but for me on the rare occasions I went to bed angry (at myself or at someone else) not only did I not get a good night sleep but it affected me for the next day or 2 as well. Whatever the issue may be it will still be there in the morning when I am fresh and can actually tackle it with a more open mind. There is no reason to lose sleep & aggravate myself and/or others.
2. ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS (is that enough always?) tell people you love them when you part ways with them. Before you leave to go to work, after Sunday night family dinner, after lunch with your girlfriends and/or guy friends, every time you say goodbye to a loved one follow it with “I love you”. These are 3 tiny words that can mean the world to you and to the other person. Unfortunately you never know when will be the last time you see them. You DO NOT want to live with the regret of not saying it. On these horrible times when you lose someone at least you can go back and think: “The last thing I said to her/him was that I love them. When they were called home they knew that they mattered to me and that I loved them”.
I’m a 100% with you on those 2.
I always always always (and so on) tell my husband / daughter I love them or to have a nice day when I/they leave home because you never know.
It takes a huge fight for me not to do that and only happened once in my 28 years relationship with my husband! That’s how he understood he’d netter get back “on tracks” if he wanted our marriage to last another day. He did, we’re good now.
Angela about your 13th point, I actually enjoy to meet people better at something than I am, it’s a great opportunity to learn from them! and here comes my additional tip : never be afraid to ask for help. People generally love to share their knowledge/experience and if they brag about it, they’re not the ones you want to learn from.
PS : I hope I make sense as English is not my first language (I'm french)
Cilou! I loved your advice! Such wisdom in your words. 🙂
Happy Birthday Angela!! I turned 30 this yr and was dreading it at first but now just feels like a number. Though may feel differently when turn 40 idk lol. I feel like Im still 29…forever 29. I agree saving money is important. Not spending more than what you can afford to spend. However it is nice to treat yourself to one or two things really want. I hope Matt does something special for your bday.
Happy birthday, again! (I commented on IG?)
I’m only 22 but I’ve learned a couple of things along the way that I’ve had to learn the hard way.
1) “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it” by Charles Swindoll is my favorite quote of all. Life is not perfect. There will be great moments and there will be tragedies. But we decide how to react to these situations and we decide to dwell in the past or to live in the present looking towards the future.
2) I was acting up in high school one day and my mom showed me Proverbs 27:6. At the time (being a teenager) I shrugged it off and kept my friends. Later on I lost those friends because I moved cities and gained new ones. Well, a couple of years ago I also lost those friends but it was through a situation.. and this verse came back into my head. “The wounds of a friend are trustworthy, but the kisses of an enemy are excessive.” I guess the life lesson here is “choose your friends wisely.” It’s taken time for me to make sure the friends I have are real friends. That they are people that would “hurt” me but it’s really correcting me because they love me versus people that “kiss” me, “love” me, say they’re my friend but let me stay in the wrong.
I’ve made these two lessons the lessons I live by. There are a few others but these two are most important. I could give a whole preaching on ’em but I’ll leave them at that. 🙂
Once again, happy birthday, Angela! May GOD bless you and Matt, ALWAYS. ❤
Happy Birthday Angela . Wishing you all the best. Hope your dreams will come thru ?
That’s a wonderful lessons ❤❤❤.
My motto is cherish every minute with your family cause you never know when it’s your last day.
Be good to yourself and to others.Don’t keep anger in your heart.Try every day to be a better person,we all make mistakes but try to learn from them. Don’t hurt others because you had a worse day.
Can’t wait for your next post ?.
And again Happy Birthday ???.
I hope you had a wonderful day even tho I have no idea what time is in a place that you live ?.Here is late evening ?.
Loved this so, so much! Your blog has become one of the things I check daily( thank Lord for the newsletter) because it always leaves me with a smile on my face or Something to get excited over once I finish reading the post! I hope your birthday, and this year, is everything you hope for and more!
Happy birthday 🙂
Wow 32 years old is great.
That thing you wrote “You need a good girlfriend. Your husband can be your best friend, but he’ll never be your best girlfriend.” that is so true.
Children can also be a mothers best friend. Do you have any children? 🙂
Happy Birthday Angela!
A lovely list of things to remember and practice more in life. I’ll be turning 30 this summer and I am strangely looking forward to it. Haha One life lesson I try to remember everyday is to treat people the way you would want to be treated.
Happy birthday Angela! You’re looking as gorgeous as ever! Thank you so much for sharing your life lessons! I couldn’t agree more with everything you said! 🙂 Love your heart. I just pray blessings over your life! <3
Happy, happy birthday! I LOVED this post and you talking about life lessons/tips. I love those kind of posts! You are one of my very favorite bloggers and I love how you speak about your faith and Jesus! He is so good! You are beautiful and I hope you have an amazing year!!
Happy birthday Angela!?
I absolutely loved reading those life lessons! I will definitely be coming back to that during my life. I still have so much more to learn! Thanks for being an inspiration!
Hope you have a great birthday and many more years to come. God Bless! ?
Would love to know what type of vitamins you take.
Happy Birthday Angela!! I loved these 32 life lessons and I definitely love learning more things every day. I am approaching my 30th birthday in a little over a year and I am very much looking forward to it! Thirty, Flirty, and Thriving!!
First of all happy birthday Angela!!! I hope you had an amazing day!
I’m totally new to podcast and don’t even know where to go to listen to them haha do you have any that you recommend? Haha and what kind of vitamins do you take?
Never go to bed on an argument and don’t wait for the well to run dry before you miss the water.
Those two things are so important to me, both have helped me avoid a lot of regrets.
I read this, and I read everyone’s comments, and as someone who is much younger than many of these ladies, and who grew up with bad body image, hate and depression, this is a kind of balm. Seriously, this may be an old post, but it was new to me. Thank you very much.
I’m so happy that you enjoyed this, Mckenna! I hope you join the Gorgeous Fam! ❤️
Please add this ” Believe that your Maker is your mirror” If they didn’t make you they cannot define you
Thank you for writing this. Tomorrow is my 32nd birthday, and you and I share the same birthday of December 7th, so I totally think the stars aligned for me to take what you wrote as sound advice to be happy. I hope you have a wonderful birthday tomorrow and please know how much your post made me feel so much better entering my 32nd year tomorrow. I needed that pep talk 🙂
Awwww! I love that! Happy happy birthday to you!!