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I saw more change and growth in myself in 2019 than probably most years of my life combined.  There were highs and (very low) lows.  There were major life decisions. More days spent apart from Matt than since we dated long distance.

Overall, I was ready to put 2019 behind us.  But as I reflected on the year, I realized that I began 2019 with my usual enthusiasm and resolutions.  Desperate for different results this year, I realized that resolutions are bogus.

Yes, you read that correctly.  I think resolutions are bogus.  Hear me out…

How many resolutions have you made that you have actually kept?  Because I’m at zero and no longer counting.

Instead of starting 2020 out with my usual list of resolutions, I decided to put them aside and instead take my time thinking about what I want this year to look like.  I have read several nonfiction books that have lit a fire in me.  I’ve been so inspired to throw out my resolutions and instead cultivate habits this year.  And guess what?  I’m actually seeing results.


7 ways to create healthy habits


Check yourself.  We set goals for things we want to accomplish, but what about the things we want to quit?  Those are habits too.  The habit of staying up too late can look like setting a bedtime for 10 pm, for instance.  What do you need less of in your life this year?  Make a list.

Be realistic.  Healthy habits are realistic habits.  They are attainable goals that you set for yourself.

Create a plan.  You need to know why you are starting a new habit.  Without a plan, you won’t have reason to keep working to create that habit.  Create a plan that makes it very clear why you are doing what you’re doing.

Find an accountability partner.  Reach out to someone in your life who also wants to change something in their life.  Become accountability partners who can count on each other to check in at set times on how you are doing.  My best friend, Megan, and I, have called each other our accountability partners for years.  I feel like there’s nothing that we could tell each other, and that’s exactly the type of relationship you need in these situations.

Stop breaking promises.  The first person I break a promise to is always myself.  I never have a problem not showing up for my own self, but yet I’d never dream of doing that to someone else in my life.  It has to stop.  Isn’t it whacky that we value our own desires about a million times less than we value a commitment that we will make to a perfect stranger?

Make consequences.  We are a whole lot less likely to do or not do something when we know that we have consequences to pay.  Figure out what is your worst case consequence.  I got this idea from a book I’ve been reading lately, “Maybe It’s You” and the author suggests things like no coffee or chocolate when you break your commitment.  She goes as far as suggesting flushing real money down the toilet or having to donate money to a political candidate you truly detest.  Why?  Because when you have to do these sorts of things, breaking your commitment to your new habit or goal becomes a whole lot less attractive.

Quit the negative self talk.  I don’t know about you, but I am meaner to myself than I would ever be to anyone else.  The things I say to myself, about myself, would literally never cross my lips about another human being.  And yet, most days I don’t even bat an eyelash at what self talk I’m allowing.

Chime in below with what healthy habits you want to start.



  1. Christina
    / 1:31 PM

    Amen sis! You basically just summed up my life. I like the idea of paying because when I don’t lose anything for not showing up for myself I am very quick to not show up for myself. I have been much better having a small accountability group, we call ourself this tripod! Anyhow, as usual thank you for the reminder and telling me exactly what I needed to hear.

  2. Tori
    / 2:00 PM

    My healthy habit is to get up and get ready every morning! As a stay at home mom, I often stay in my pajamas until I have to go somewhere. Today is day one of at least put on real pants every day! 😂

    • / 2:05 PM

      I hear ya! As I’m sitting here working at 4:05 PM in my PJs LOLOLOLOLOL

  3. / 2:32 PM

    I love this! I’m doing more journaling this year already, but I haven’t started a real routine when it comes to it, I just get my journal out when I’m feeling like it.

    Some of the things I want to start (and stick to a routine with) this year is reading my Bible, journaling, and getting out to walk a couple times a week if not everyday.

    • / 10:44 AM

      My #1 habit this year was starting my day with Jesus and since I changed the way I think about it, I’ve been able to make it happen every day the past +two weeks and only have missed one day. Hoping I can make it a non-negotiable for my every day. 🙂

  4. / 3:52 PM

    Hahaha I’m with ya babe I NEVER make New Years resolution. Instead I just try to set small goals throughout the year or keep myself on a schedule. I’ve realized writing out my schedule and putting lots of things in my planner helps me stay on track!

  5. Ashley
    / 4:57 PM

    Same!! Instead of making unrealistic goals this year, I decided to change daily habits! Instead of saying I want to lose 50 lbs. I said I’m going to the gym 5days a week and I’m not eating after 530pm most days. I’m down 22 lbs and counting now! Biggest weight loss I’ve had and I don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything or craving anything. It’s amazing! I loved reading this blog post! 💜💜💜

  6. Shannon
    / 4:58 PM

    Yes! Yes! Yes! I skipped the resolutions (which I’ve never reached) and opted to focus more on want I want my year to look like when I sit down to reflect in December.

    One big focus of mine is to treat myself as I would treat others. Why is that so hard? I would never say nor think the things I do about myself about anyone else. That has to stop!

    Good luck with all your goals for 2020!

    • / 10:46 AM

      It’s so true about the way we speak to ourselves!

  7. Kendall Ligon
    / 5:19 PM

    Best post yet! You have some really good, practical tips here. Attainability is the only way to reach a goal. Baby steps. Thanks for the motivation. Perfect for today, Ash Wednesday, the beginning of lent. This is when I try hard to reset… start healthy habits, do good works, and not just give up things.

    • / 10:47 AM

      Thanks, Kendall! What healthy habits are you starting for lent?

  8. Tracy
    / 5:54 PM

    I decided I would finally start taking care of myself this year. I say it every year but the minute someone says they need something I’m there. I’m actually changing that this year, I made a list and I’m slowly checking things off. I feel better about me…not a ton of change yet, but I’m getting there.

    • / 10:48 AM

      Sounds like you need to start a new habit of learning to say no. 🙂

  9. Michelle
    / 7:23 PM

    I know I’m guilty, trying every day to do better, however I quit resolutions quite a while back, because a lot of my goals can’t be accomplished in short timeframes. I do work on my goals each week, but I should work on them daily.

  10. Nikki Read
    / 7:27 PM

    Love this! Great steps to make real successes not only in 2020 but for a healthy lifestyle for life!

  11. Larisa
    / 10:18 PM

    Love this! Thanks for the great reminders, Angela! I have the hardest time being positive with myself! Goals for this year, for sure!

  12. Lauren
    / 3:35 AM

    Perfect post for me!!!! I hear you and I have one – don’t doubt yourself or say I will fail – I was asked if I wanted to do a course for work or work down at our other office and immediately freaked out and melted down and know I’m nearly 3 months into the course and doing well and done about five shifts at The other office

  13. / 3:52 AM

    Wow this was a very healthy and helpful blog post Angela. Its amazing because sometimes when you plan a goal you don’t always accomplish them. Well spoken. I have really been enjoying your blog posts.

    From Erinn

  14. Johanna
    / 6:58 AM

    I used to do a New Years’ prayer.. that did work better than any resolution.. I don’t know why I ever stopped.. but the pressure is not on me, but on the One who is more than able and willing to help me grow! ❤️

  15. Brittany Blackburn
    / 3:18 PM

    Love this post! I want to start doing self-care more regularly. Up until last year, I thought self-care was selfish and that I didn’t need it. But I do! And I’m slowly incorporating bits into my life. What are your favorite self-care things?

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