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4 Lessons from 4 Years of Marriage

If you know me, I’ll use any excuse to talk about marriage and relationships.  Perfect example: Girl Talk Tuesday Love Series.  I love being able to pour into other’s lives, especially about things I’m passionate about…  And I’m passionate about marriage.

In honor of celebrating four years of wedded bliss with Matt this week, I thought why not share four lessons I’ve personally learned in those four years of marriage.  I partnered with Jared The Galleria Of Jewelry to bring you this post today.

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4 Lessons from 4 Years of Marriage angela lanter hello gorgeous

4 Lessons from 4 Years of Marriage angela lanter hello gorgeous

4 Lessons from 4 Years of Marriage angela lanter hello gorgeous

4 Lessons from 4 Years of Marriage angela lanter hello gorgeous

Let’s take a look at each lesson I learned in each year of marriage.  That way if you’re a newlywed, maybe you can relate based on where you’re at in your marriage.

4 Lessons from 4 Years of Marriage

  1. Leave and Cleave.  If you were raised in a Christian home, then you are well familiar with this verse.  If not, then let me explain.  This reference comes from the Old Testament, Genesis 2:24 to be exact, and the verse directs a man to leave his father and his mother and cleave to his wife.  This verse isn’t just meant for men, it goes both ways.  At first read, you think, of course I’m leaving my parents, I’m moving in with my husband, duh.  Or maybe you left your parent’s home many years ago.  This direction is not only saying to leave physically, but that you also need to leave emotionally.  I’m not saying that you can’t have an awesome relationship with your parents, but your relationship with your spouse has to trump every other relationship in your life in order to be successful.  You can’t call home and complain to mom about every little thing your husband does.  You can’t run home to mom & dad every fight you have and expect your husband to be okay with that.  Once you commit to marriage, you chose to stick it out and work it out.  Your parents (friends and other family members count here too) can’t easily forget every time your husband hurts you, they can sometimes hold on and begin to resent him.  Because you love him, you’ll forgive him and move on, then your parents begin to have bad feelings towards him.  If you would keep your fights between you two, when you work them out, no one will be left angry.  You can make up and move on with your lives.  But if you bring your parents into every fight, there’s a good chance problems will start after they feel their little girl was hurt one too many times.
  2. Learn each other’s love language.  I’ve talked before about the five love languages and how much I believe in them.  You can easily take a short quiz online to find out your or your significant other’s love language is.  One of my primary love languages is gifts.  I love giving and receiving gifts and Matt knows that about me.  The gorgeous necklace featured is from Jared The Galleria Of Jewelry.  This beautiful cross necklace is so special because of the faith that Matt and I share.  This necklace is a sideways cross design made of diamonds and 10K white gold.  I really enjoy dainty pieces for everyday wear and think this was the perfect gift idea for our wedding anniversary!  Click here to see more necklace options, there are hundreds of fine jewelry options to choose from at all different price points.  You’re sure to find the perfect piece to celebrate any occasion.
  3. Learn when to keep quiet.  This is one of those things I wish I knew before I had gotten married.  Many a fight would have been avoided if I could just have been smart enough to stay quiet.  In the heat of an argument, sometimes words are out of your mouth before you’ve had a chance to even think about them…  And once they’re out there, there’s no taking them back.  After a few years of marriage, I’ve learned to slow down my thoughts and my words when I’m angry.  To just stop and think a minute before I speak.  Sometimes, it’s just better to shut up than to keep throwing gas on the fire.  Walk away, take a breather and think about what it is that you’re really fighting about.  Once you both have cooled down, come together and discuss it like the rational adults you are instead of fighting like toddlers hurling around insults.  Getting down and rolling around in the mud never solves anything.  Instead, a calm conversation when you both have your wits about you will get you to a place of healing so you can move on.
  4. Put your spouse first.  Even over yourself.  I think most married couples understand that your spouse needs to come first, but so many struggle with putting their spouse before themselves.  Let me give you a practical example of what this would look like.  Putting your spouse first means doing something that they want even though that’s not at all what you want.  Maybe it’s something major like a move for a job (Heaven knows I’ve been there!) or maybe it’s something smaller like letting your spouse have the remote.  Each day is a new chance to serve your partner.  Hopefully, your spouse will in turn want to serve you…  But if he doesn’t, unfortunately that’s the thing about love; it’s selfless.  True love doesn’t keep a tally of how many things you do for someone, then expect they do that many things for you.  Instead, it’s dying to yourself daily and looking for ways to show your love in a real way to your husband.  Instead of feeling unappreciated or unloved, take a step back and look at the practical ways your husband shows you he loves you…  Maybe it’s by working hard to provide a paycheck for your family, maybe it’s taking care of the lawn or maybe it’s something as simple as always being sure you have gas in your car.  Don’t let the little things go unnoticed and make you resentful.  Instead, recognize the little things and understand that’s his way of taking care of you.

If you’re also married, please leave a comment below and share some of your wisdom with us.  So many of my gorgeous girls are unmarried and this is a chance to speak to their hearts about ways to work on their future relationships.

This is a sponsored conversation written by me on behalf of Jared The Galleria Of Jewelry. The opinions and text are all mine.

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9 Spring Cleaning Tips and Hacks

I love spring cleaning.  There’s something so satisfying in ridding your home of the clutter.  If you missed my post, “5 Tips for Purging” you should check it out.  I talk about practical ways to start the purge process.

Spring cleaning isn’t just purging…  It’s actually a good deep clean.  I tend to lean a bit towards the OCD side when it comes to cleanliness level.  I like my home to be spotless.  Messes make me crazy.  I can’t focus when I’m surrounded by mess.  Living in a house full of boxes these past three weeks has just about driven me up a wall.  Matt & I made some moves this weekend though and got a lot of our unpacking finished.  Let me know if you’d like to see an organization post on my closet.

Speaking of closets, with all the unpacking, we boxed up tons of stuff to donate or give away.  I saved some special pieces to add to my Poshmark shop, so if you live in the US and you’re interested in shopping my closet, be sure to follow me there.  If you’re new to Poshmark, use code: JTHJG to get $5 off your first order. (This is not sponsored BTW… I just love Poshmark!)

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nordstrom sweater dress angela lanter hello gorgeous

nordstrom sweater dress angela lanter hello gorgeous

nordstrom sweater dress angela lanter hello gorgeous

nordstrom sweater dress angela lanter hello gorgeous

nordstrom sweater dress angela lanter hello gorgeous

9 Spring Cleaning Tips and Hacks

  1. Give your towels a refresh.  Ever notice that your bath towels start to lose absorbency?  I’ve found that’s usually because of fabric softener build-up.  Every so often, I like to use this trick to freshen up my towels: One cycle with hot water and one cup of white vinegar.  Then run them through a second cycle with cold water and half a cup of baking soda.  Dry as normal.  I first discovered this remedy on Pinterest about five years ago and I couldn’t believe the difference it made in my towels!
  2. Wipe down your baseboards and blinds/shutters.  These two jobs are perhaps my least favorite housekeeping tasks.  I prefer using my vacuum attachment first to remove dust then going over them with a damp microfiber cloth.  If you have a baseboards hack, please let me know…  I’d love to find a way to make this job less painful.  I also use a damp microfiber cloth on our plantation shutters.
  3. Deep clean the microwave.  This one isn’t terrible.  I fill a bowl with water and several drops of vanilla extract.  I microwave my water/vanilla concoction for at least three minutes then immediately wipe down the inside of the microwave with a cloth.
  4. Clean out your hair drawer and brushes.  Oh girl, you’re not fooling me…  We all have a hair drawer that holds our dryer, curling iron, brushes and about 1,000 loose bobby pins.  I try to empty mine out every single spring and start from the bottom up.  I clean out all dust and debris from the drawer (and all of my bathroom drawers for that matter).  Collect all the loose bobby pins, hair clips and bands and throw out the ones that have seen their day.  I now organize my bobby pins and hair ties into small glass jars to keep things tidy.  I also clean out all the nasty hair from my brushes and combs and deep clean them in hot soapy water.  Trust me, you’ll feel such a sense of relief the next time you open that drawer and see clean brushes and organization where there was once craziness and loose hairs.
  5. Deep clean the fridge, freezer and pantry.  Check expiration dates.  Toss the stuff you know no one is going to eat.  Remove the shelves and trays and clean them with hot soapy water.
  6. Don’t forget the utensil drawer and tupperware cabinet.  I couldn’t believe how many pieces of tupperware I had without matches.  Those things are like socks; their matches just always seem to come up missing!
  7. Flip the mattresses.  Unless you have a pillow-top of course.
  8. Clear out that magazine rack.  I’m guilty of constantly letting my magazine stacks grow way too large.  I love the idea of donating your magazines to local women’s shelters or doctor’s offices to repurpose them…  Just be sure to remove your name and address from the cover.
  9. Give your purse and wallet some TLC.  Trash all the old receipts, expired coupons and credit cards.  If your wallet and handbag need repaired, now’s the time to do it.  Your shoe repairman typically also works on handbags, so stop in and get that zipper fixed, lining stitched and bag shined up.

What are your favorite spring cleaning tips, tricks and hacks?  Let me know in the comments section below!

Photography by Kara Coleen.

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Thankful for You, Mom!

As a kid, your world revolves around your mom.  She’s your first best friend.  She cares for you, she does everything for you.  Then you grow up.  You learn to do things on your own because of what she taught you.
I am the epitome of a mama’s girl.  Being an only child, my mom was not only my mother, but also my playmate, my teacher and my companion.

As Mother’s Day draws near, I find myself reflecting on the matriarchs in my family.  The women that have come before me were strong, beautiful and full of love for their families.  My mom has been no different.  She has been an amazing example to not only me but every girlfriend of mine who has encountered he

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Mother's Day Jared Jewelry Angela Lanter Hello Gorgeous

Mother's Day Jared Jewelry Angela Lanter Hello Gorgeous

If you’re a mama, know that what you’re doing is so important.  Know that your love and hard work may feel like it’s unnoticed right now, but it will pay off.  Your babies are so blessed to have you in their lives.

Some of us weren’t raised in the traditional way and others filled the role of mom in your life.  This is also a great chance to recognize the impact they had on you.

 

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Mother's Day Jared Jewelry Angela Lanter Hello Gorgeous

 

Mother's Day Jared Jewelry Angela Lanter Hello Gorgeous

We always have a good reason to celebrate the moms in our lives, but life sometimes makes that easy to forget.  Mother’s Day is a great reminder to spoil our moms.  A chance to love on them.  To pay back a tiny fraction of the love and attention they’ve given us all these years.

When selecting a gift, I want to choose something that’s high quality and will last mom forever…  And Jared The Galleria of Jewelry will help you do that!  They have such great gift ideas to help celebrate your special bond with your mom this Mother’s Day.

I selected these gorgeous earrings from the Brilliant Moments Collection for their timeless style.  These diamonds were hand selected and set in 14K white gold.  The halo trim of smaller diamonds is my favorite earring design.  My mom picked out diamond stud earrings for my 21st birthday gift, so I knew these earrings were the perfect way to say “Thank You” to her.  I love the gift of jewelry because it often marks a special occasion and, in my family, we pass down our pieces to our loved ones.  Not only has jewelry been passed down in my family, but the love and appreciation for it from my Mawmaw to my Mom and now to me.

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How and who will you celebrate Mother’s Day this year?  Leave a comment below and let me know!

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Thank you to Jared The Galleria Of Jewelry for sponsoring this blog post.  All opinions and text are my own.

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