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Happy Valentine’s Day everyone!

I’m sure you’ve noticed that I’ve been sorta MIA lately.  That’s because things have been completely crazy lately (can you relate?).  Just to catch you up, here’s a quick recap/update of our craziness:  Matt wrapped season 1 of Timeless last Tuesday (one week ago today), so I spent the 4 days prior packing up our Vancouver townhouse.  Wednesday, we moved back home to LA.  Thursday we got the keys to our new home in LA.  Friday Matt started production on his new project, Pitch Perfect 3.  Saturday was moving day and every day since has been spent unpacking.

Whew!  We’ve made some major progress unpacking, but I just gotta say that moving without your spouse is no walk in the park.  We’re currently on different coasts and it’s been sad saying goodbye to our first home and hello to our new home without Matt by my side.

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Happy Valentine's Day angela lanter hello Gorgeous

Happy Valentine's Day angela lanter hello Gorgeous

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Thankfully, my hubby will be home later this week, so we’ll be able to officially enjoy our new (mostly furniture-less) digs together.  We’ll celebrate Valentine’s Day once he gets home. 🙂

Naturally I’m having a hard time keeping up with Hello Gorgeous during the move, but the end is finally in sight.  We’ll be back to our regularly scheduled programming in no time at all.

One quick question, would you like to see Girl Talk Tuesday’s continue with the “Love Series” or should we just go back to generalized topics each week?  Let me know what your preference is in the comments section below.

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Welcome back to the third installment of Girl Talk Tuesday the “Love Series”.  We’ve tackled first dates, ways that you’re ruining your relationship/marriage and now we’re taking a good long look at ourselves.

Ladies, let’s kick this off with one question…  Would you date you?  Or, if you’re already married, what’s it like to be married to you?

No, really.  No one knows you better than you.  No one knows all the deep, dark secrets.  With that being said, knowing what you do, would you date you?

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One of my most defining moments as a 20-something young woman was when I asked myself this question.  I had to really think about my answer.  Here are some of the things I discovered:

  1. I wanted to change the other person.  I constantly tried to “fix” my boyfriends.  It took me many years to finally understand that you can’t change anyone but yourself.  No amount of nagging, crying, yelling or anything will really change someone.  You have to either accept who that person is or you have to move on.
  2. I always looked to blame an outside.  If an argument or problem arose, my first response would be to find someone to blame.  Rarely are relationship problems 100% the fault of only one person.  Recognizing your role in argument is a sign of relational maturity.
  3. I never asked for forgiveness.  I believe that a true apology needs to include asking for forgiveness.  “Will you forgive me?”  Those four words will humble you and, in a lot of cases, soften the heart of the injured party.  A healthy marriage consists of two people who are great at asking for and giving forgiveness.
  4. I was uncomfortable with myself.  I was constantly in long, serious relationships throughout my teenage years and my 20’s.  The very thought of being single freaked me out.  When I had no choice but to be single in a certain season of my life, I learned more about myself than probably every other season combined.  I had become so used to being known as someone’s girlfriend that I lost who I really was.  I took that time to grow closer than ever to God.  I spent time really thinking about what I wanted in a future husband.  I read so many marriage books.  Really, I figured out what I wanted out of a relationship, but it took me being alone to do it.  When I was in a relationship, I was distracted by who was consuming my time, which kept me from realizing what I really wanted in a partner.
  5. I’m stubborn.  My Mawmaw used to say that I’d argue with a sign post.  I didn’t want to date an argumentative person, so why should that be okay for me to act that way?
  6. I was a bad listener.  I’d like to think that I’ve improved my listening skills through the years.  I spent so much time thinking about what I wanted to say during an argument that I’d miss just about everything the other person said.  I now try to practice active listening as much as possible.

Now that you know my dirty laundry, I’d like to challenge you.  What’s it like to date you or be married to you?  Write down at least three completely honest things about you that you know to be true…  No matter how ugly those things are.  I want these to be things you know that you need to work on.  Being that this is a safe place, feel free to share those things in the comments below.  Sometimes your truth can help another reader discover something about their own self.


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Welcome back to Girl Talk Tuesday.  Last week we kicked off GTT for 2017 with the first part of my new love series.  Today we’ll be looking at 7 different ways you’re possibly ruining your relationship.

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7 Ways You're Ruining Your Relationship Girl Talk Tuesday Angela Lanter Hello Gorgeous

7 Ways You're Ruining Your Relationship Girl Talk Tuesday Angela Lanter Hello Gorgeous

7 Ways You're Ruining Your Relationship Girl Talk Tuesday Angela Lanter Hello Gorgeous

7 Ways You're Ruining Your Relationship Girl Talk Tuesday Angela Lanter Hello Gorgeous

7 Ways You're Ruining Your Relationship Girl Talk Tuesday Angela Lanter Hello Gorgeous

7 Ways You're Ruining Your Relationship Girl Talk Tuesday Angela Lanter Hello Gorgeous

7 Ways You're Ruining Your Relationship Girl Talk Tuesday Angela Lanter Hello Gorgeous

Love and marriage are my favorite subjects to talk about (other than fashion and beauty, duh).  I’ve read many books about marriage (see this post for some inspiration) and have now been married for almost four years.  I’m not a relationship expert by any means.  I just thought I’d shared some experience that I’ve gained throughout my relationships on what not to do.

Maybe you’ll see yourself in one or some of these love faux pas.  If that’s the case, my hope is that you will recognize these behaviors or patterns in yourself and snap out of it.

7 Ways You’re Ruining Your Relationship:

  1. You mother him.  Listen up, ladies…  Your man doesn’t need another mom.  This doesn’t mean that you can’t love on him or spoil your man.  What it does mean is that you don’t have to monitor his every move.  You don’t have to check up on him to make sure he’s doing whatever it is that he’s supposed to be doing.  He’s a grown man.  Let him feel and act like one.
  2. You nag him.  My general rule of thumb for nagging is this: asking once is expected.  Asking twice is a reminder.  Asking three or more times, you’re a nag.  I can hear you arguing with me through your screen right now saying, “But Ang, you don’t know my husband…”  Oh girl, I do.  I have one.  Sometimes I have to ask 10 times.  Other times, I pick my battles and let. it. go.  That’s the take away here…  Decide what’s really important and let the not-so-important stuff go.
  3. You use tears to manipulate.  This one is BAD.  Technically, any form of manipulation is bad, but turning on the waterworks to get what you want is the worst.  I’m not talking about crying when you’re really hurt.  I’m referring to those times when you aren’t getting anywhere in an argument or certain situation, so you resort to tears because you know you’ll get what you want.
  4. You whine when you don’t get your own way.  It’s never easy to see things not go your way.  The way you handle these situations says a lot about your character.  Being a sore loser of an argument makes things tough on everyone involved.  A gracious loser never really loses because she has a positive outlook regardless of the outcome.
  5. You talk bad about him to others.  This is my #1 no-no.  Never run to your mom or girlfriends with fresh wounds from a fight with your man.  You know why?  You’ll kiss and make up.  You’ll forgive, forget and move on with your life.  Others don’t share your same love for him.  They won’t forget the hurt he caused you.  They will keep a scorecard.  You and your man need to mutually select a handful of likeminded people who are your safe places to go to for counsel when problems arise.  These people need to always have your marriage held in the highest regard.  Your true friends will care more about your marriage than they will about your feelings.
  6. You talk down to him.  No one likes to be spoken to in a condescending manner or tone.  Yet, we find ourselves speaking more unkindly to those closest to our hearts than we would a perfect stranger.  Just because he’s your constant, doesn’t mean you suddenly get to disregard his feelings.  I listened to a podcast today about this book and it’s now on my must-read list.  Next time you start to speak or respond in a negative way, try to stop yourself and choose to find the positive in the situation.  Purpose to be sweet to your man, even when he doesn’t deserve it.  When you consistently make this choice, I can almost promise that it will eventually rub off on him.  Try returning anger with kindness.  The angry/bitter cycle has to stop somewhere.  Decide to have it stop with your kind words.  Bottom line: give him respect and he’ll give you love.
  7. You stop trying.  We as women often complain that our men worked so hard to get us, but now that they have us, they don’t try anymore.  If we’re being 100% honest here ladies, are we really still trying?  This is going to look different for all of us.  Some of us used to get dressed up and totally glammed when we were first dating.  Some of us spoiled our boys like crazy.  We found out what they loved and we did those things because we wanted them.  Basically, we loved them and pursued them by speaking their love language.  When we get comfortable in relationships, we get busy and life gets in the way.  The things that were so common in the beginning of your relationship now become the things we do on special occasions.  We don’t get to choose how someone loves us, but we can teach them how we want to be loved by loving on them.  Lead (love) by example, even when life gets in the way, and your relationship will flourish.

Please leave a comment below with a tip or two that you’ve learned to help prevent disaster in relationships.  Or if you have struggled with one of these points mentioned above, leave a comment and let me know.

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